ThirdFriday Etiquette

   ThirdFriday Play Party Etiquette   

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A few simple guidelines for those coming to their first ever play party. You may see things that may worry you or concern you. Everything at a play party is done under the guidelines of Safe, Sane, and Consensual.

1. Never under any conditions interrupt a scene.

2. You should never move into an ongoing scene and touch or involve yourself in any way with the submissive being scened.

3. If you have questions about a scene please wait until the scene is over with completely before asking questions. You can also ask a DM (Dungeon Master) they will be more then happy to explain.

4. The scene is not over just because the play has stopped. After care of the submissive is very much a part of the scene. You will see Dom's holding and caressing their submissive's this is called aftercare.

5. Keep as quiet as possible while scene's are going on.

6. The unattached submissives present are not fair game for any roaming Dominant. Every submissive should be treated with courtesy and respect with their implicit rights honored and respected.

7. Any unapproved contact is considered to be highly offensive and such conduct may be sufficient for the offender to be bodily removed from the facility.

8. It is inappropriate to touch, handle or use any other person's equipment or toys without the specific approval of the owner of the equipment.

9. When a scene commences in your vicinity you should respectfully withdraw to a distance sufficient to allow the in-scene Dominant and submissive ample room to accomplish the scene without interference You should also be alert to the usage of various tools, toys and equipment as their usage in tight space presents a real danger of inadvertent contact for those not paying attention. Whips, crops and canes and other toys can inflict devastating damage through accidental contact so protect yourself and your submissive by staying well clear in scene areas.

10. It is not permissible for a collared submissive to be approached, spoken to or touched by any other person without the explicit permission of their Dominant Master or Mistress.

11. If a scene is going on and it is something you are afraid of or scares you, our best suggestion would be to walk away.

12. Being rude or disrespectful will not be tolerated. When in doubt - be courteous. Good manners are always appropriate especially in the event of unexpected situations where you are unsure of what to do or say.

13. If you notice upon returning home that you have come into the possession of unfamiliar toys or equipment do call your host or hostess and notify them of the occurrence and make suitable arrangements to return the objects to the facility or directly to their proper owner.

14. Confidentiality and discretion are hallmarks within any BDSM community. It is up to each person who becomes involved in such a community to protect the other members. So , please remember that who or what you see at any BDSM meeting or event is confidential and should stay that way. This means any ThirdFriday event, and also events and meetings sponsored by such groups as HPEP, EROS, HOH, and the NLA. Please do not talk to others outside of the community about who you saw, and you can expect the others in the community to protect your private information as well.

If you see someone that you know from a BDSM related event outside of the BDSM "world", then please remember that their discretion needs to be protected under those circumstances. Do not openly approach them and use their scene name. A nice waive, or general "hello" of course is normally ok, but do not mention anything that has to do with the scene unless you are 100% sure it will be appreciated.

15. ThirdFriday (BDSM) related events are not "swingers" events, friendly chat is encouraged, however, it is NOT a "pick-up" place. Do NOT proposition anyone for any reason until you have grown to know such person and are sure that it will not be an offensive gesture.

Other Etiquette info: Dungeon Etiquette and Protocol.